Hey, Sis! I’m Patrice. I’m a girls’ girl. I have always been. My friends will tell you; I’m always welcoming, compassionate, loving, and transparent.. I believe women deserve (& need) to be at peace. I want us to truly be happy in our lives. I enjoy seeing women win! I love to see wives happy. I desire to see mothers fulfilled.
I am a wife and mother of two young children- a son and a daughter. I absolutely adore my husband and my beautiful babies and am grateful to be experiencing motherhood. Becoming a mother has been the most transformative experience of my life. In a sense, I feel I was reborn. I birthed purpose and a new level of ambition to truly live and design my life when I had my children.
"You know, as I get older, personal happiness is all about love. It's all about love. You know, how I'm loved and how I love my family and my husband. That to me is happiness, when I feel like I am loved and I have a place to love deeply. That to me is happiness."
As amazing as motherhood is most times, there were times in my motherhood journey that I felt extremely overwhelmed, anxious – and even depressed. I felt so conflicted about my own feelings because I felt guilty for being overwhelmed by the things I prayed for.
It wasn’t until I was honest with myself about what I was experiencing that I was finally able to begin my journey to self-awareness, healing and being whole. A large part of what helped me to navigate these unexpected twists and turns, was being able to have honest conversations with trusted family members and friends- but first, with myself.
I’m eternally grateful to those that listened, encouraged and loved on me during those times. It truly helped me morph into the woman I am today. A mother. A wife. A businesswomen. But also… PATRICE. I am thankful to be peacefully and happily navigating marriage, motherhood and womanhood- maintaining a sense that I had once lost in my quest of total devotion.
We Get You. We Are You. We Got You!
Motherhood is the most empowering thing I’ve ever experienced. It has also left me feeling as if I know nothing at all at times. Whenever I experienced overwhelm, my initial reaction and instinct was to keep it a secret. I didn’t want to seem like I couldn’t handle it. There came a point when I just couldn’t keep some of my feelings to myself. I began to open up to my mom friends and I was fascinated by how many women could relate to my struggle. I was fascinated for multiple reasons. Initially, I was relieved that my struggles weren’t unique to me. That simple fact gave me a sense of comfort. I was also confused as to why the things I was dealing with weren’t a conversation topic. If so many of us are experiencing the same thing, why is no one talking about it? It seemed as if mothers, particularly black mothers, are expected to silently bear burdens and keep our feelings and emotions a secret… Completing our outfits, each day with an invisible cape adorned with the spirit of the “push through”, no matter how we actually felt.
I didn’t want to do that. I wanted to address the challenges, while celebrating the good- to authentically share the good and the bad- and all the in between. It is my desire to create a safe space, encouraging support, transparency and healing among mothers of color.
We need each other. It doesn’t only take a village to raise a child; it takes a village to raise each other. Motherhood in Color is that village.
Let’s create a culture of transparency, wellness and fulfillment among women of color who are navigating motherhood.
We will celebrate the magnificence of motherhood. We will laugh at the “you wouldn’t believe it if I told you” moments. We will also address the challenges that come along with it. No more silence. No more stigma. No more secrets. We will honor the fullness of our womanhood as well as the complexities and intersectionalities of our motherhood.
Let’s lift each other up as we mother our children, and ourselves.
Nothing about being a black woman is one-dimensional. Adding on motherhood damn sure doesn’t make our lives any less complex. We’re a wondrous concoction of might and mystique. I mean, let’s be honest. Half of us don’t even know how we do all we do. If that ain’t magic….
Bottom line – nothing about being a mother is black and white; it’s hardly that simple.
So why try to convince the world, or even ourselves, that it is?
Let’s celebrate our sisters as they continue to win and grow. Let’s also support each other through the inevitable challenges.Let’s redefine motherhood on our own terms, not according to societal pressures, “norms” and expectations.